We sell stuff to the NM labs, and they alway seem to come running at the 11th hour to finish spending their budget. We're used to it and are always happy to sell!
Thanks for the update Pete. I hope things go as good as possible for you through this phase of your life. Charlie
Welcome to the US Govm't. Darned if you go over budget, danged if you underspend. Keep your head up, Pete, we're here to help. I donno whether to congratulate you, or feel sorry for it all being over for you, but if you're OK with it, we're happy for you.:tb-cool:
I know. Years ago, we owned a retail electronics business. More than once, people from various agencies iof that State came in, blowing money on totally useless stuff. (And things I know good and well went home accidently.) Just to empty their accounts. :tb-wacky: Boxcab E50
I made it through the day. Boy, the house looks empty. But I'm just fine. It was time for this to happen, and now it's happened. I'll go shopping tomorrow.
I'd ask if you want a room mate,but I'd be too far away from my family. Imagine our 2 layouts linked together:tb-ooh: LARGE !!
It happened fast. It was amicable and, more important, mutual. We'd been through it a few times before, about every seven years. So, the fourth time it stuck. It's a bummer, for sure. But it's not the end of life. One of her points was that she has 30 more years to live, and didn't want them like the last 28. I can't argue with that. We had many more good times than bad times but, in the end, she just counted the bad times. It came down to silly little things in communications that hid much more serious issues between us.
It's hard to get through my head how something like this happens. I don't really understand it. Charlie
I think it's not understandable. Jeanne is bi-polar, which meant we had incredible highs together, but also incredible lows. It was a quick, emotional decision on her part, which I agreed to. We'd been through it a number of times, actually about every seven years in our 28 year relationship. I'm not even trying to understand it. I just accept it. Her "reasons", which would a basis for understanding, were emotional and quite petty to me. For example, she was outraged that I broke off her evening-long discourse about her idea for a robotic nurse a few years ago when all of our guests were clearly tired of hearing about it. So I was therefore too dominant in the relationship. Not diplomatic in changing the subject, but dominating. She has hundreds of examples of that, and can quote each, text and verse. I think I was diplomatic each time; she thinks I was dominating. I don't remember each of her hurts; she remembers every one. And that's how the relationship ended. Our friends think of me as a generous, kind-hearted, open-minded and smart person; she thinks of me as dominating her life. It's a bit unreal, as she needed control of everything, including my phone calls. In the end, her insecurity ended it for me. She was insanely jealous about my relationships with her girlfriends, or the wives of our friends, as if I'd bedded every one of them on first meeting. For God'sakes, that was just unreal! So it ended. I'm pretty pissed that I out-earned her 5 to 1 over 28 years, and had to give her half of my retirement funds. But I'll get over that quickly.
Pete- After reading your latest post, I can see how you came to this point in time. It does not seem like a situation where there was any alternate course available to be taken. :tb-sad: Boxcab E50
Ken, my friend, In these times I think of the opening lines of Dickens "Tale of Two Cities" It was the best of times, it was the worst of times . . . And Tolstoy's "Anna Karenina" All happy families are alike, but an unhappy family is unhappy after its own fashion. I'd translate Tolstoy a little differently: All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy for its own separate reasons. I think that's a more accurate translation. Perhaps I reveal too much? If you chart best as north and worst as south, and happy as west and unhappy as east, you will see that we reached far southeast: worst and unhappy. That was her perception. My perception was northeast: best but unhappy. Since her perception is her reality, we agreed to split. I tried to raise her perception to zero-zero, but that didn't work.
Doing OK, folks. Just checking in. I haven't been very active lately, but I'm sure you'll understand that I have a lot of things to do here. I think it took us longer to separate our cell phone accounts than it took to get a divorce! I do not recommend T-Mobile to anyone! What a joke! Paying the bills, which I hadn't done for 28 years, proved to be a real snap with today's electronic systems. It's amazing what you can save once you really look at things. I've cut the electricity/gas bill by 60% by shutting off the second refrigerator, and other measures, like running the fish pond pumps only 4 hours a day. I didn't think about these measures when things were chugging along smoothly. The court papers were signed by the judge just yesterday, so it's now official, official, official. Financially, I'm not in as bad shape as I thought originally, although the Wall Street disaster may change that view quickly. I am actually thinking of selling the house, buying something smaller, and living mortgage-free, although it may take another year or two or three before I can figure that one out! Best regards to all! I'll be back in another month or so. Pete
Good to hear from you, Pete. I dunno what to say to this whole ordeal, but at least it's for the most part over. Pop in when you can, and we'll be here if you need it.
When I went thru my divorce from my first wife, I fell back on railfanning and model railroading as a form of therapy to help me through the madness- long as I was busy doing something I liked, I didn't dwell on what went wrong, and I didn't stay depressed. Work kept me busy enough, but the hobby also helped- besides, the dating scene where I lived at the time was at best abysmal. No idea how you dealt with all you had to deal with, but it sounds like a major relief being free. Hang in there, Pete, we're all here for you.
I'm not much into the forum or modeling lately--my interests are in other things, like building a new kitchen table, which will be sweet when it's done. I'm a little bit down, which is natural, and hope I'll bounce back up shortly. I usually do.
That's completely understandable after any life changing event. Take whatever time you need... :tb-biggrin: :tb-biggrin: :tb-biggrin: :tb-biggrin:
